"There are two kinds of books; those that build you, help you grow and
put you on course, and there are those that will destroy you, not
because they are fetish but because they fail to follow realities." -
Anonymous
I have witnessed the effects of some of the movies we
as Nigerians take delight in and I can say that they are unhealthy for
our lives, emotional wise.
For those who remember "Cuando Seas
Mia" (When you're mine), being one of the very few first Spanish-Mexican
movies that graced our Television set several years ago. Its effect on
the average mind was not just of love and admiration but something more
devastating beyond running to a neighbour's house to watch when there
was power outage. Unfortunately, more of these soaps flooded our screens
for no cost and then we thought it was a blessing.
"When you're
mine" was my first and my last. Even as a young man, I became squishy
and sentimental and would act like I was some love-hungry fellow whose
appetite for "True Love" was insatiable. The Utopian Love the soap
preached seemed to have started and ended with the movie and could not
be found in the real world, our world.
I have seen in some cases
where most ladies try to induct their love life with the practices of
these "perfect" movies and soaps and the result? Epic fail. Poor ladies!
Some dedicate days, some weeks venting their anger on the
"insensitivity" of their man and how he does not know and appreciate
what true love is.
Korean season love movies, Philippines,
Indian soaps, as well as Brazilian season love movies have terribly
affected many, particularly our female folks. To some of them, there is
love and there is TRUE LOVE. I can tell whether a man or a woman is a
product Telemundo and co. upon hearing the words "True Love".
Unfortunately
for most ladies, they don't realize that these soaps follow a linear
plot, whether Korean or Mexican; a boy and a girl fall in love but an
obstacle stays in the way of their love. It's either a wife who is
forced on the poor guy or an estranged wife who refused to divorce him
for selfish reasons OR an unfortunate young girl finds love in the arms
of the master and it takes the young, rich, handsome dude three seasons
of the movie to notice the love and another two seasons to get her to
look his way.
Regardless, these soaps fail to focus on every day
lives and some life's issues that could make relationships tiring at
times. They fail to tell how difficult it can be with MTN's airtime
sapping technique and how difficult it could take me to put a call
through when I'm battling to ward off the sun from melting my brain.
Rather, it's about a quest to finding the ultimate - TRUE LOVE.
Newsflash, THERE'S NO SUCH THING AS TRUE LOVE! LOVE IS LOVE. If it's
sole purpose is to use or take advantage of, then it was never love.
The
height of deceits are usually the types of "Strong Love" these people
preach but our ladies don't seem to get this. They love to apply
abstractions into becoming realities. These soaps cum movies have a way
of blinding one's eyes to seeing harsh realities. It is unfair to equate
one's relationship with the ones projected in these films. Way unfair!
There
are pressing issues in between relationships, which mostly involve
keeping heart and soul together. A man cannot dedicate every minute of
his life carrying "True Love" on his head like one would do Afro.
Dear
ladies, no one is asking you not to watch what you love or what makes
you tick. Where the problem lies is comparing Diego and Paloma's love to
yours and that of your man. It's a disaster waiting to happen. What is
acted in films should stay in films. They're not worth losing your
relationships over.
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